Toda marriage is something very unique because their marriage takes place only after the bride conceives the baby of her husband.Marriages are negotiated and initiated usually before the partners are 2 or 3 years old and are completed at maturity, when the husband takes his wife from her home to his own hamlet. The bride after marriage stays with her husband for a month or two and then goes to her parents place. And when she becomes pregnant, a joint ceremony takes place called the bow and arrow ceremony. The groom goes to the forest and makes a bow and arrow from the tender stems of the tree and presents it to his bride. If the bride accepts it, that confirms that the baby in her womb is his and she accepts him as her husband.
Basically a mother’s brother’s daughter or father’s sister’s daughter, is incorporated into the patrician of a male, who
is thereafter considered her husband, whether or not they live together.The ceremony organised at the beginning of the seventh month of pregnancy , is marked by traditional dance and songs by members with the clan wearing colourful shawls. The ceremony which is conducted a day before the full moon day also fascinated some of the foreign tourists who witnessed it. The couple later take the blessings of the elders. Some of these marriages are also arranged when the two are still children.